Problem with Authority Figures? Six Steps to Overcoming Them

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Mary Ann Robbat

Adapted from her new book, "Engaging Your Power"

Have you ever trembled in your boots when your boss called you into his/her office? Do you stiffen up and get ready for an argument when a cop approaches? When you walk into a job interview, do you get tongue-tied? These are all physical manifestations of some old belief about authority figures that's buried deep in your subconscious. This old belief sprang from a negative experience or pattern of experiences you had as a child. Back then, you didn't have the skills, experience, or knowledge to cope effectively with someone who was more powerful than you—and abused that power—so it was perfectly logical to be intimidated.

What's so interesting about problems with authority figures is that when we grow up, they no longer make sense in most cases. You may be very masterful in your peer group and you may even be an authority figure to others (a coach, parent, teacher, supervisor, and so on), yet those same ancient kneejerk reactions happen anyway. Until you identify and let go of the underlying belief that is causing you to cower or react in some other way, it doesn't matter how powerful you are. You'll still have those same unpleasant and unhelpful responses to authority figures.

The most important relationships we had with key authority figures in our lives—which could include parents and older relatives, childcare workers and teachers, doctors, law enforcement officials, coaches and mentors, clergy, and others—largely determine how we react to authority figures as an adult. If you had very few challenges from authority figures in your life when you were young, chances are you have few issues with authority as you've aged.

However, if as an adult you experience extreme physical reactions to authority figures, even though you know it's illogical or silly, you bet there was an issue when you were younger! Here's what you can do.

Step 1: Note your reaction.

What type of reactions do you have when you're with someone who you perceive has more power than you? Pay attention to physical reactions, such as lowering your eyes, racing heart, crossing your arms in front of your chest, or butterflies in your stomach. Or it may be more subtle, such as not wanting to take up anyone's time, shying away from speaking up, or always contradicting the authority figure. It's helpful to write down all the reactions you notice.

Step 2: Identify the main power broker.

Most people who have problems with authority don't have a difficult time naming the top person in their life who had the most influence on their adult behavior related to authority—usually a parent, older relative, or caregiver. Once you have that person in mind, try to remember how you felt around him or her. Once again, notice if there are any corresponding feelings in your body.

Step 3: Connect the feelings with a specific memory.

Try to recall a specific early experience with this person when you felt a strong negative emotion, such as shame, embarrassment, fear, pain, outrage, hurt feelings, frustration, or despair. Close your eyes, if helpful, and relive the experience from a child's point of view. More than likely, you'll feel the same physical sensation you felt in step 2.

Step 4: Identify your corresponding beliefs.

Close your eyes again and think about what you, as a child, believed would happen if you spoke up or defended yourself. For example, If I give my opinion, I'll be mocked. If I speak up, I'll be shushed. If I fight back, I'll get hurt or punished. Write down two or three things you believed very strongly as a child when confronted with the event in Step 3.

Step 5: Reframe your beliefs as an adult.

Take the statements from Step 4 and rewrite them from your adult perspective, so they become positive, not negative, statements. For example, If I give my opinion, others will have the opportunity to benefit from my point of view. Reframing and rewriting your old, unconscious beliefs in a positive light is a powerful way to begin changing your behavior.

Step 6: Make your new beliefs "stick."

For some people, it works to read their new beliefs every day for a month. Others repeat them aloud like mantras. Still others practice saying them silently right before a potentially threatening situation, such as asking a boss for a raise. Repetition helps you replace old, unconscious beliefs with new, conscious ones.

Take the time to work through these six simple steps and watch how your attitude and behavior around authority figures changes.

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Mary Ann Robbat is a widely esteemed energy healer, shaman, and coach, and runs the Robbat Center for Advancement of Energy Healing, which trains people in energy-based healing modalities. Her new book is Engaging Your Power: Using Your Divine Energy to Have the Life You Want, available at Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble. Learn more at www.robbatcenter.com.

The Placebo Effect is Getting Stronger, Say Drug Developers

The placebo effect is a well-established fact of medicine. In clinical trials of drugs, manufacturers routinely test their newly developed drugs against well established drugs and against placebos (pills that have no known medicinal properties).

The placebo effect allows for the power of the patient’s own belief in bringing about his own recovery. If the patient believes that a pill will make her feel better or cure her, it frequently will do just that—regardless of whether or not that pill is actually a sugar pill with no medicinal properties.

During clinical trials, if the placebo effect is as strong (or stronger) than the drug against which it is tested, that real drug is said to have failed and the Food and Drug Administration will likely not approve that drug for sale on the American marketplace.

And that appears to be happening more and more frequently.

Why would the placebo effect be getting stronger?

One reason, according to Steve Silberman of Wired Magazine, “may be found in the drug industry’s own success in marketing its products.”

Since 1997, drug manufacturers have been able to market their products directly to consumers through television and magazine ads. These ads tell consumers how wonderful they will feel by taking that particular drug.
We know how effective advertising can be to make consumers buy products, now we know how effective it can be in increasing the placebo effect.

It also gives us another example of the power of our own minds to affect our bodies.

Acupuncture, Placebo Works the Same on Knee Arthritis, says Study

A new study indicates that those who think that they received acupuncture for knee osteoarthritis (but didn’t) and those that actually did receive acupuncture showed identical symptom relief.

The study, which will be published in the September issue of Arthritis Care and Research, is the latest in a number of studies that have documented the value of the “placebo effect” in managing pain and in healing varied illnesses and disease.

The placebo effect was originally tested, albeit unknowingly, by an army nurse during World War II. According to Wired:

“When the morphine supply ran low, the nurse assured a wounded soldier that he was getting a shot of potent painkiller, though her syringe contained only salt water. Amazingly, the bogus injection relieved the soldier’s agony and prevented the onset of shock.”

This was the first reported case of the power of the mind—the power of belief –to heal the body. But there would be more. Today, all pharmaceutical drugs are tested against the placebo effect to see how effective a medication, minus belief, actually is.

There’s only one problem with this “scientific” test…you cannot really separate one’s belief from one’s activity—any activity. Time and again, the placebo effect has shown that those who believe that a medication is healing them or relieving their symptoms actually experience such an effect.

This most recent study that shows acupuncture and placebo having the same positive results on those who suffer from knee osteoarthritis is just more evidence in what we already now. But it goes a step farther.

According to WebMD, “The goal of the study was to evaluate the effects of the treatments and the impact of interactions between the health care provider and the patient. Acupuncturists were trained to interact with patients using one of two communication styles. One style, called ‘high expectation’ had the health care provider telling patients he or she has ‘had a lot of success treating knee pain’ therefore increasing a patient’s expectation. The second style, called ‘neutral,’ had providers telling patients the treatments ‘may or may not work for you.’”

And which approach do you think worked better in reducing the patient’s pain? That’s right…there was a “small but significant effect on pain and satisfaction with treatment” when the acupuncturist communicated a positive expectation to the patient.

In my opinion, the acupuncturists’ positive attitude added just a bit more “oomph” to the placebo effect. The provider’s positive attitude helped the patient to believe in the treatment which, in turn, caused their healing. In a healing or, really, any other endeavor, it all boils down to what you believe.

Speaking of which…what do you believe about the power of belief to put you over (or under) in life?